In many families, childcare is still largely seen as the mother’s responsibility, while fathers are often expected to focus mainly on providing financially for the household.
But experts and research increasingly highlight the importance of fathers being actively involved in their children’s everyday lives.
Simple activities such as holding a baby, feeding, playing, talking, reading and comforting a child can strengthen the bond between father and child while supporting emotional, social and cognitive development.
When a child cries, some fathers may immediately tell others to take the child to their mother. However, regularly leaving childcare to mothers can prevent fathers from becoming equally familiar with their children’s needs.
A father who spends time caring for his child is more likely to recognise when the child is hungry, tired, uncomfortable or needs attention. He can respond by feeding the child, changing their clothes or nappy, bathing them, comforting them or simply staying close.
Research on early childhood development also emphasises responsive caregiving—the ability of parents and caregivers to recognise and respond appropriately to children’s needs—as an important part of healthy development.
In Rwanda, early-childhood initiatives have similarly emphasised responsive caregiving and positive parenting, with parents receiving training on practices that support children’s wellbeing and development.
Fathers can also contribute to learning through everyday activities. Reading stories, singing, talking and playing with children can create opportunities for learning while making children feel loved and supported.
The message is therefore simple: fatherhood is about more than providing money.
Being present, listening, playing, comforting and taking part in everyday childcare can help build a stronger relationship between fathers and their children.
A child needs a father who provides—but also one who is present, engaged and involved in their everyday life.
